After I did Part 2 of "How To Be A Better Person", I thought I wouldn't ever have to do another one. I know you can't change other people, but it just helps me out to feel like I've done something right. So here it is...
Have you ever heard a rumor, swore you'd never tell, and then broken your promise? Well, most of us have slipped up more than once in our lives. But it's what we did after that really matters. To be honest, apologizing after hurting someone is truly an act of valor. It takes great fortitude to admit something you've done and own up for it. If the enduring rumor is about you, don't ask around or confront the person who started it. Chances are, you'll end up embarrassing yourself even more. Surrounding yourself with honest and kind friends will definitely increase the likelihood of your claim being corroborated. (A kind friend is someone who is genuinely nice not only to you, but to everyone else around them as well.) The best way to recover from a breach of trust or an embarrassing event is to talk to someone you trust or just relax and unwind, maybe read a book, take a walk, watch a movie or listen to music. And even if the rumor continues for a long period of time, remember that if so many people are talking about you, it must mean you hold a place of importance. If you are part of a group of friends that is close to splitting up due to rumors, try to consolidate them by not taking sides. Joining the argument is something you will regret immensely. If you've made a new friend, do not try to insulate them from people who spread rumors. They will eventually realize who gossips and who does not. Throughout the course of your life, people will try to bring you down, innumerable times and innumerable ways. You will be left with a plurality of friends you used to have who changed for the worse. Though that may be so, remember that you are singular, with all your idiosyncrasies, likes, dislikes, and pet peeves, so just be you. Before you love other people. learn to love yourself.
PS - I am not a licensed therapist. If you really need help, please visit a licensed professional. :-)
Have you ever heard a rumor, swore you'd never tell, and then broken your promise? Well, most of us have slipped up more than once in our lives. But it's what we did after that really matters. To be honest, apologizing after hurting someone is truly an act of valor. It takes great fortitude to admit something you've done and own up for it. If the enduring rumor is about you, don't ask around or confront the person who started it. Chances are, you'll end up embarrassing yourself even more. Surrounding yourself with honest and kind friends will definitely increase the likelihood of your claim being corroborated. (A kind friend is someone who is genuinely nice not only to you, but to everyone else around them as well.) The best way to recover from a breach of trust or an embarrassing event is to talk to someone you trust or just relax and unwind, maybe read a book, take a walk, watch a movie or listen to music. And even if the rumor continues for a long period of time, remember that if so many people are talking about you, it must mean you hold a place of importance. If you are part of a group of friends that is close to splitting up due to rumors, try to consolidate them by not taking sides. Joining the argument is something you will regret immensely. If you've made a new friend, do not try to insulate them from people who spread rumors. They will eventually realize who gossips and who does not. Throughout the course of your life, people will try to bring you down, innumerable times and innumerable ways. You will be left with a plurality of friends you used to have who changed for the worse. Though that may be so, remember that you are singular, with all your idiosyncrasies, likes, dislikes, and pet peeves, so just be you. Before you love other people. learn to love yourself.
PS - I am not a licensed therapist. If you really need help, please visit a licensed professional. :-)
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